Your desires are always balanced by what you believe you desire. This acts as the foundation for the Law of Attraction. At the end of the day, you attract what you are and not what you want.
The way in which you view yourself plays a huge role in what you can achieve in life.
Successful people possess wealth because they believe they act like a successful person. What do successful people do? They surround themselves with like-minded people, set goals, and work hard in achieving those goals.
So, how can you change your mindset to attract what you really desire? You must think and act like the person you want to become.
This article will help you to understand what you are attracting right now and how you can train your mind to attract the things you really desire.
First, it is useful to define the exact meaning behind this concept.
What does ‘You attract what you are’ mean?
The law of attraction states that “like attracts like”.
What this means is that insecure and self-abandoning people with low energy or frequency attract each other. At the same time, those with a high frequency – people who value and love themselves – also attract each other.
In other words, people who are positive and possess high self-esteem are not attracted to those who are negative, self-loathing and needy of approval.
“You attract what you are, not what you want. So, if you want it then reflect it!” – Troy Gaskins
Of course, nobody intentionally seeks out someone who is negative and closed. If you are this type of person, however, that is what you will attract into your life.
Becoming self-aware of what you are attracting
Every instant you direct your attention to what you desire, you create a ripple effect. It means regardless of whether you feel bad or good, you continue to attract and build on the way you feel and think in the present moment.
If you are feeling down or frustrated about something, you will invite things that cause you to feel even worse.
On the other hand – if you are feeling good – you will attract positive things in return.
“Our thoughts create our reality. Pay Attention!” – Chelsi Halewood
Have you ever had one of those days where something good happened soon after you woke up? Think about the rest of the day. Chances are that your day was great and full of positivity.
When you’re feeling good, your interactions with people hold more value and you transfer your positive energy to others around you. This in turn, causes you to feel even better.
This is why its so important to pay attention to your thoughts and the way you feel at all times. Your thoughts and feelings act as a personal vibration and you attract things that match your frequency.
So, now that we’ve covered how you attract what you are, lets focus on what you can do to manifest what you really desire.
Law of Attraction tips and techniques
Following these tips and techniques will help you in achieving what you really want in life. They will cover how to shape your thoughts and feelings so that rather than chasing what you desire – you’re attracting it.
Visualising your goals is a very effective method of training and preparing your mind. It helps to get rid of those negative thought patterns and replace them with a positive, prosperous train of thought.
- Visualise your mind as a ‘blank canvas’
Clear your mind of all thoughts and worries. Gradually, introduce and draw the things you want to bring to life onto the canvas.
A great way to do this is to pick your next big goal in life and use this image every time you use the blank canvas.
- Imagine yourself in it
Visualise yourself living the life that you want.
Do you aspire to be a famous footballer? A successful businessman? Raise a wonderful family? Whatever it might be, create imaginations of that life and everything you will be doing in it.
Don’t just visualise the images but imagine your actions. Imagine the conversations you would have, your movements, your presence and so on.
Positive affirmations are the means by which we program our subconscious mind to manifest our desires.
Write down powerful affirmations and recite them on a daily basis.
“An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the path to change.” – Louise L. Hay
These autosuggestions have the power to convince your subconsciousness that what they say is the ultimate truth. This in turn, gives you the push you might need.
Here are some examples:
“I will succeed in anything I set my mind to”
“I do not fear a challenge. I embrace it”
“My mind is clear and focused”
For more affirmations check our 25 Positive affirmations for positive thinking.
Affirmations are used by great leaders and successful people worldwide and are one of the greatest weapons in attracting what you desire.
3. Watch your words
People tend to underestimate the power of words. For every word to exist, it must be preceded by a thought. Depending on the nature of these thoughts, they create either negative or positive vibrations.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will break our hearts” – Robert Fulghum
Words transmit that energy on a physical level. When someone speaks, they send out a frequency, that when entering another person’s brain, creates a certain image to flash inside their mind.
This is one of the reasons affirmations are so powerful. They are positive words which send out positive vibrations, translating to positive images in our minds.
Think twice before speaking. Think both deeply and consciously. It’s important to say what you mean and mean what you say, but at the same time – be careful of the impact your words may have on yourself and others around you.
4. Pursue what inspires you
Many people are so stuck in their daily routine and everyday responsibilities that they don’t have the time to think about what really inspires them.
“Whatever inspires you, fires you” – Geoff Thompson
Even If you’re busy, it’s important to set aside just a few minutes a day to do something that makes you happy. It could be listening to your favourite song, calling a close friend, writing your book, amongst many other activities.
Happiness and inspiration go hand in hand. Think about the last time you felt down and the last time you felt truly happy. What were your levels of inspiration at each point?
5. Practice mindfulness
The ability to be mindful and practice pure conscious awareness is one of the best discoveries somebody can make in their lifetime.
At the end of the day, only we have the power to choose our thoughts and attention.
It is not easy. Some people may have a natural talent for it, but for most, it takes a lot of practice.
Be aware of your breathing. Start paying more attention to your thoughts and feelings but pass no judgement. Observe both your inner and outer world but do not get emotionally involved.
“Our life is shaped by our mind, for we become what we think” – Buddha
This is the basis for mindfulness and techniques such as meditation are a great way to begin learning these concepts. Eventually, it will give you the ability to choose what you think about without letting your environment take control.
6. Be Patient
In today’s world, patience is an increasingly rare virtue. Many things in our life are now designed around instant gratification.
Social media, porn, video games, sex and junk food are just a few examples of things that give people an immediate ‘fix’.
We can have most things at the push of a button, tap of a card or by a quick swipe on our phones. When the time comes where you actually have to wait for something, it can often lead to feelings of frustration and anxiety.
Impatience is negative and negative emotions are one of the best ways to slow down the law of attraction.
“Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting” – Joyce Meyer
The next time you are feeling impatient, distract yourself and focus on the positive side of things. Think about how much better it will feel getting something that you had to wait for.
7. The power of burning desire
For the law of attraction to work, you must possess a burning desire. Don’t be afraid to dream and don’t listen to others who tell you what you cannot do.
Set goals for yourself. Set big goals and then the small goals that you need to achieve in order to get there.
It might be a financial success. It might be health. It might be providing help to others. It might be all of these. Whatever you want to do, to be or to have – think about it every single day.
Think about it until it becomes an obsessive, burning desire. You attract what you are so the more you think about it and manifest, the more you become that which you desire.
8. Have self-respect and love for yourself
How can you expect love from others if you don’t love yourself? After all, you attract what you are, and this especially applies to self-love.
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” – Rupi Kaur
Simply put, the law of attraction won’t be met if you do not like yourself. It rewards any emotion or feeling you are experiencing with respect of the value attached to it.
Whether it be going in front of your mirror and yelling ‘I love myself!’, therapy or meditation – your will power and perseverance is all you need to succeed.
9. Practise gratitude
Being grateful is one of the most effective ways to achieve a positive mindset and therefore attract more positive energy in your direction.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough” – Oprah Winfrey
You could start by building a journal where you record all the people and things that you are grateful for in your life. If your mood is low, take a look back through the journal and remind yourself of reasons to be positive.
A great way to encourage the law of attraction is through regular meditation. Don’t forget – you attract what you are – and this is a method that helps change the way your thoughts behave, enabling the attraction of positive things in your life.
“Your mind is your instrument. Learn to be its master and not its slave” – Remez Sasson
Meditation practices mindfulness and helps to put your mind at rest. It helps to bring your core attention away from negative thoughts and feelings.
It could be just 15-20 minutes a day where you take the time to empty your mind and focus on feelings of love, prosperity, health and success.
Take deep breaths. Let negative thoughts come into your mind as you inhale and then expel these thoughts as you exhale. Once you have freed your mind from negativity, focus on positive sensations and thoughts.
This is just a brief summary of how meditation is used but with more research, time and practice, your mindset will reap the benefits.
Not only will you personally feel the effects of the law of attraction through these methods, but there have been studies to show the benefits.
One researcher at the University of Exeter published a study on constructive and unconstructive repetitive thought. It found that people who consistently told themselves that they are able to meet a goal were more likely to secure positive outcomes.
So, become who you strive to be, don’t let negative emotions control you and improve yourself step by step. Eventually, you will be able to attract and become that which you desire.
Remember, you attract what you are.